Communication gap is a human glitch which just temporarily locks you out or changes your path but, has long term repurccusions on others and self too.
Our daily lifestyles do not have the space for sustained focus and perseverance any longer. We jump at conclusions and make quikfix decisions to get going with our personal, professional or joint goals. This is the reason we do not mark our feelings and work on the emotions getting expressed. At times these unaddressed communication gets converted into stress points leading to chaos in relationships and further giving way to mental health issues.
What are the ways to handle some sustained communication gaps?
Here is an effective flow:
1. Self- Awareness:
Make yourself clear on your thoughts. What are the issues, pain points, confusion, the circumstances in which the gap got widened and more.
2. Empathy:
Understand if you know the perspective of the person with whom you need to discuss things. Give a thought or two to their thought process.
Get the different angles which might crop up during your conversation with them.
3. Conflict Resolution:
Accept that there might be or not a concensus or reconciliation. Let's be practical. The gap got created at both your ends.
This is an attempt to clarify gaps from both ends and not an end result of something which has been built overtime.
4. Attitude:
Take the initiative to call and meet. You are responsible for your need to make things more transparent. No ego show will solve anything.
5. First Come First Serve:
It's okay to start talking first and get your thoughts rolled out. No diplomacy will help because that will show and your attempt is going to fall flat.
6. Long Term Plan:
Give time for the person to open up even if it doesn't happen at this meet. Keep meeting casually but, always try in a smudged way to bring up the topic.
7. Care to share in Relationships:
It's always good to take help from common friends or acquaintances. Sometimes a third party interference might reignite the spark.
8. Time is a healer:
You will have to give ample time and keep trying to build the relationship. The gaps may take a while and even if they close, it takes time to forgive or forget or
start afresh altogether.
Gaps exist so that we jump and crossover, not to be created in communication.
Happy Communicating !!!!
