Remedies for Motion Sickness during road trips for both adults and kids

Travel & Adventure, has come to become the most influential experiences of the community in the past few years. Who does not want to go on a vacation or get into a well planned holiday with family and friends?

Taking advantage of the same, our markets are cluttered with too many start-ups & fully grown ventures offering all kinds of customized and tailored holiday packages. The Experiential industry has come to rule our minds and hearts by taking the combination of tourism and hospitality industry to great heights.

However, one constant complain I do hear about from many such experiences of people is how sometimes a few red flags get ignored when promoting some destinations and unexplored zones. Some pros and cons which goes missing or gets subdued, while showcasing the glamour of these places or packages score as red flags. A few of these red flags are -

1. Climate changes or temperature patterns
2. Altitude and oxygen levels
3. Sudden path trajectories/ changes in routes
4. Survival instincts to behold
5. Clothing and Footwear
6. Limit on Luggage & Trek backpacks
7. Flexible to food localization

All we need is a beautiful experience, a great time with our family and enjoy the ME time.

And for this to happen we need to do two things -

One, get everything crystal clear with Travel planners.

Two, Be a Scout! Research well! Be strong-willed! You are then ready for anything which comes your way!

Infact I would say it's always cool to have surprises comes your way. And that's how you have fun exploring new things and places with your loved ones.

Just that let's be as ready as possible for any undeserving surprises!

I thought today, writing about "Road Travel Remedies for Kids and Adults with Motion Sickness".

This comes from my own experience with myself and my son over the past few years.

I am going to divide these into three parts, starting with preventive, On-the-Spot and lastly the post travel cures and remedies.

Please note that I am not going to tell you to take some medicine or swallow a pill, but, just use some healthy, logical, ethnic or localized ways to get your children and you to get over motion sickness.

1. Preventive Steps

The most common saying is and will always be "Prevention is better than cure".

1a. A good night sleep always gives the essential stamina, energy boost and relaxation to start a great journey.

1b. A glass of Ginger Lemongrass Fizz an hour before leaving on your trip. Both the ingredients are antioxidants and anti irritants and will take care of digestion and protect you from throat or lung infection. For recipe refer: https://casaveneracion.com/ginger-lemongrass-fizz/

1c. A set of breathing exercises, yoga or stretching will aid in bringing in the required relaxation to the body to travel sitting for the road trip.

2. On-the-Spot Survival Kit

2a. Salt is your friend when you are passing through several terrains. It helps you balance out the changes in air pressure and hormonal changes due to high excitement levels.

A bit of chips is fine during travel and if you just want to avoid it, Baked cheeselings or crackers  are also great. Avoid peanuts because it sometimes affects digestion.

2b. Some knacks for managing your body temperature and keeping your stomach PH levels at comfort are taking the Lemon along for rescue and keep smelling it on your way. Also, Chew and Lick away Peppermint, Tamarind candy or some Vitamin C gummies.

2c.The secret of a great road trip lies in unwinding, rewinding and throwing all your worries out of the window and get into that envious power nap you were dreaming of one regular working day. Give yourself the respect you deserve.

3. Post - Travel Essentials

3a. The first thing to do after you have winded your trip is go for a relaxing bath. Do drop a few Dettol to get away with all the dust and bad bacteria. Do carry any anti-fungal ointment and dusting powder for getting you all pepped up for further exploration.

3b. The Classic Vanilla ice cream is a blessing after you have ended your road trip. Have a good big scoop after your lunch or dinner. Vanilla has anesthetic properties and helps to solve any body pain or nauseating tendency you may be having. Also, the aroma of Vanilla gives a sense of pleasure and happy thoughts.

3c. Keep sensory engagement to the minimum after the trip because your body is just coping with the travel it had taken. So take a leisure walk after your food and then have a good nap to complete the loop.

Have an enthralling road trip !!!

Handling a Grudge through Emotional Intelligence

When life will pierce me with knives of grudge,
and poke me with rods of hatred,
I will only smile back with courage!

When doors will slam on my face,
and words will poke with all its might,
I will swarm with peace and calm!

Tell them that what they have built is their own to strive,
their own to try, grown upside-down to destroy their own hive!

#toxicrelationships #grudge #backbiting
#negativeemotions #Emotionalintelligence #copewithtoxicfeelings #toxicpeople
#emotionalcoaching #relationshipgoals #relationshipwoes #stopjudging #stophating #livelovelaugh #happylife

Gratitude

Gratitude is something we need to teach as parents to our children. Being grateful for even the tiniest moment of affection someone showered on us at some point of time makes us who we are as adults. It makes us understand the potential of creating a world filled with kindness, mutual-respect, empathy, compassion and thankfulness leading to strong human connections.

#Gratitude #affection #Kindness #mutualrespect #empathy #compassion #thankfulness #humanconnections #benevolence #love

Broken Trust

It's not about falling down, its never about moving back; it's not even about brooding a hundred times; it's about what's called Trust. If Broken, pulled together to be put back still means that a million shattered pieces have stuck back. Imagine a work of Modern Art or broken mirror.

But, then is when a new life begins with it. When the gaps are filled with wisdom, realization and courage. Everything becomes more meaningful and fulfilling.

This is just like "Kintsugi" which is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum. As a philosophy it treats breakage and repair as part of the history of an object, rather than something to disguise.

History is beautiful and tells an unheard story for accepting it in the present.

#brokenlove #trust #wisdom #realization #courage #life #lifequotes #kintsugi #kintsukuroi #lovequotes #love #relationshipquotes #relationship

Five Instant Ways To Build Stronger Immunity In Children

The constant churning of weather in the city has been leading to an unrest in the immunity balance of our children. The fluctuating humidity levels are throwing an havoc on the body temperatures, not letting them stabilize or tune in on time. Moreover, it is holiday time and no point holding on to kids indoors, but, the constant sweat and insulated AC environments are not doing any good. Barging in and out of the extreme surroundings gets the children prone to irresistible seasonal infections like common cold, ear infection, cough & flu, dust allergy and many more. But, then because prevention is better than cure, there are some quick & easy home remedies which will act upon as instant immunity fighters. Not just that, they will help you curb on your monthly budget & put a zing on your pockets for healthier stuff.

The deal here is more of a replacement therapy with some plug-ins to a happy and stronger family.

1. Stop using SUGAR and start using HONEY or PALM SUGAR

Though all three of them contain different types of sugars, they differ in their glycemic index levels. The Glycemic Index, (GI) ranks carbohydrates according to their impact on the blood glucose levels. Glycemic Index measures the speed at which the food raises the blood glucose level of a person. Foods that are processed by the body more quickly are ranked high in the GI.

Sugar stand at GI 60, Honey at 58 and Palm sugar the least at GI 41. The lower the GI, better the body absorbs the carbohydrates and pushes for a healthy functioning.

Honey or palm sugar in cornflakes, Parantha rolls or sandwiches add to the taste buds.

2. Stop using Horlicks/Bournvita/ Boost & start giving "Dates n Clove" or "Banana or Apple " Milkshake in the morning.

The free from cholesterol 'Dates' and the anti-bacterial flower buds 'cloves' make for the most energy boosting and nutrient packed start for the day. Just in case, you kid is a bit on the overweight side or has issues with heavy drinks, you can make a light shake with more milk and less of banana or apple. Banana and apple will add on to the much needed fibers for digestion.

3. Stop using cream/lotions & apply a layer of coconut oil

The brands are making the most out of our emotional touch points and the worse we are letting them. The over priced creams/lotions/essential oils and all those baby products extract their source from simple and easily available ingredients. Just because they have increase the shelf life of the products, they have to add on harsh preservatives. Why not just reply on our grandma tricks. The most common tip could be use the benefits of our old good coconut oil. Apply a layer of coconut oil when the kids come fresh and semi moist out of their bath. This will keep their skin not just supple and soft but, also keep it free from bug bites. Just add some cinnamon sticks to hot coconut oil and leave it to soak up. This aroma based oil can be your savior for the season.

4. Stop processed food and supplement them with healthy alternatives.

A. Paneer instead of Cheese - Paneer parathas instead of cheese roti rolls.

B. Home-made banana chips instead of Lays, Kurkure, Balaji, Chedda's.

C. Dry fruits instead of toffees, lolly pops.

D. A bit of dark chocolate with the morning breakfast will always do good by adding antioxidants. Also, it's good kids know the taste of bitterness before you can move them onto  

     vegetables like 'Bitter Gourd'.

5. The nights are warm with stories and some relaxing oil therapy too.

   

A. Massage in some caster oil/ Franch oil into the abdominal area and around in circular motion unto the belly button. This gives some good strokes to the intestines and prevents or stops

    constipation, dysentery, inflammation or indigestion.

B. On the onset of some slight cold, use Eucalyptus oil/ or make a warm mix of mustard oil and camphor and massage it unto the feet and make them wear socks. Give the kids a bath the

    next day morning. Repeat 2-3 times continuously.

However, for both the oil therapy's follow and "watch and do" routine as an overdose of it may have it's side effects like high body heat or skin rashes.

Happy Immunity!

"Sensual Mindfulness" And "Sexual Vigilance" Are Both Imperative 21st Century Lifestyle Skills.

Every time, the news channels breakout to incidences of child sexual harassment, molestation or rape, our human conscience goes through this harrowing inescapable black hole. Our mind wanders relentlessly trying to escape the empathy we feel for the victim or the family.  We never want to hear or see reports of such incidents again, but, then we are again knocked down to such sensational horrific reporting.

As parents and educators, we face complex turbulences of unceasing insecurity right from the time our children get dropped at school or picked up by the school bus in the morning, until, their cheerful voices echo back home. The daylight seems more prone to night-mares that the darkness of the sunset. In fact the eloquent nights give us a breeze of comfort, when our young ones are safely asleep within the confines of our home.

We do ask ourselves constantly and at times discuss within our inner circle, if this is the world we are bringing up our children in? If the present is such, what is the prediction of the future?

Going for a quick-fix solution, our parental instincts make us vulnerable to opt for a helicopter or narcissistic parenting style leading to a child who is bundled with overdependence, unwariness, anxiousness, low on self-esteem, insecurity-complex and depression. These are the kind of children who fail in their adulthood, ruining not just their happiness but, also of others. Because they were always being hovered upon, these children do not know how to react to situations - harsh or even simple.

As for educators, we are split between the fringes of school administration, management expectations and parental pressure on security & safety measures.

With the recent incidences of danger lurking not just around the school gates, but, inside the school premises, the need for upgrades on technology & human resources has become the most pressing concern.

Over the couple of years we have seen an upsurge in the number of videos coming up on good touch and bad touch. Our children are exposed to this very basic chapter on sex education as early as play group & nursery. Some of these naïve little ones do later discuss it out within their peers and also have a few questions for us. And that's exactly where our skepticism erupts on what to say and what information to withhold? How do we parents or educators take the lead from here? Haven't we always been the most mindful and alert when it comes to the safety of the kids? I am sure, we all are and have always been, but, the right terminology and essence here is that have been "Sensually" mindful and "Sexually" vigilant? The counter question is how do we practice and apply "Sensual mindfulness" and "Sexual Vigilance" as parents, educators and also practice it along with our young ones?

There are several tools & coaching methodologies to learn the skills of "Sensual mindfulness" and "Sexual Vigilance". But, even before learning or knowing them, we need to burst a few myths and join a few facts here as our first guide towards understanding how to start sex education for our kids:

1. Myth - Sex education is a one-time lesson plan!

Fact -  No, it is a continuous process during the child's growing years!   

     2. Myth - Sex education can make children unhappy and lead to unwanted complex kinky

                    behaviour.

     

         Fact - We as parents & educators, need to have an open-minded approach in dealing with

       these hard pressing issues, leaving behind any pre-assumptions about "Sex

                  education" defying any moral or cultural grounds.

   3. Myth - Sex education is a lecture/a serious talk/ an argument.

   

       Fact - Sex education works best when practiced as part of our routine lifestyle, just making

                   it a bit mundane, plug-in some new-age media, emotional literacy tools &

                   knowledge resources like books, articles etc.

   4. Myth - Sex education will create fear in young minds.

        Fact - In Fact, it's just the opposite. It will clear many real life doubts and make the children

                  more confident and courageous. Do remember that safety is better than fear.

                  Fear is dissolvable.

   5. Myth - Sex education is setting boundaries with opposite gender.

       Fact - The need to make sex education part of our system is to respect diversity and adopt

                  inclusion of all genders equally.

   6. Myth - Sex education teaches the mechanics of sexual intercourse.

       Fact - It is much more than that. Sex education cover a range of adolescent and growth

                 pattern topics on the human body and mind.

   7. Myth - Sex education is embarrassing and unwanted.

       Fact - No, it need not be at all that. Until, you as a parent or educator are not comfortable

                 with it yourself. There is nothing wrong or harmful in sharing the real life ways of  

                 life with our young ones.

   8. Myth - Sex education can best be learnt by reading books/watching videos.

      

     Fact - The best way to have sex education plugged-into your life is through regular everyday  

               conversations with your children. The other tools like books, videos, movies are an

               added resource. A personal touch can have the best impact!

9. Myth - Sex education is something they have to discuss with their friends/ cousins. Not with

              us parents.

  Fact - This may lead to either disbelieve, scary thoughts or a feeling of disgust. Remember

             that friends and cousins are still almost their age group and may have just half-

             baked knowledge on the subject.  

10. Myth - Sex education is self- learnt. Eventually as children grown-up, they will know.

     

     Fact - The 21st century has seen the highest circulation of knowledge. But, also insecure

     environments, both online or offline. Because of so much exposure, children start   

    experimenting with their own bodies & start relationships very soon. We need to walk the talk

    with them now.

Our collective responsibility as a 21st century citizen is to break our own myths and join the facts, leading to a happy & safe family. Let us start NOW.

Will Marraige work for me?

The opening quote from ‘Pride and Prejudice’ read “It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.”

And I just so refuse to relate to it in the 21st century!

Through our naive learning routes, most of us saw our parents, living a very typical marriage life. Firstly, traditional grounds pull us to be connected to society through the institution of marriage; second,  getting onto the management of finances becomes easier and third, the family gets a final stamp with children entering life through wedlock. In a general circumstance, this is what each of us believed in as children and teenagers. And then we grew up suddenly to the realities of adulthood, and questioned a lot more and pondered about the sacrifices our mothers told they made or the risks our fathers took for the sake of the happiness of the family.

And suddenly, things didn't make sense !!

"Time all along has been so hell bent on bringing in radical changes in a Man's need for a woman & a woman's yearning for a man!”

Conversations with women my age and much younger is typically ending with them asking me "Why should I get married?" and indeed being already married with a child I stammer a bit and rush out a few words.

But, thinking with all my might I do agree that we already hitched ones, ourselves have this colossal question staring at us point-blank. “How do we reinvent marriage to hold the essence of what means to us most in life when it comes to we wanting to spend life with our partner sharing the same aspirations or may be not?”

I tell my women friends calmly later, start with answering this simple question together with any of your prospects and if the answers you both get seem quite convincing, go for it then. The question is, “How do two people strategically grow in a marriage making a foundation so strong that the marriage belongs to both of you rather than look like some custom or culture in a staggering loop for a very very long time now?”

Breaking down this complicated question also calls for a great amount of self-awareness.

You will be able to break the code through these tools of Self-Awareness.

Do I have time for marriage? Share my time with someone else?

What are the reasons I want to get into wedlock?

Am I game to share professional and personal growth? The puzzle of shifting sides on household chores, financial stability and emotional investment.  

How easily do I accept change? Because that is the only permanent thing in life, inclusive of marriage. People change, I will change, my partner will change. Will I be able to cope with those changes and carry forward and grow the marriage?

Am I comfortable sharing my intimate time with someone? How open I am to talk about my body, its needs to be caressed and felt? Am I ready to experiment with what my partner will have in mind?

What are my strong points and weak points when it comes to relationships? Am I detached? Am I an introvert, extrovert or ambivert?

Society and customs ..does it matter? To what extent?

What are my spiritual inclinations?

Is economic independence core to survival? Would I want my partner to have their finances planned independently or shared?

Raising a Child, needs raising yourself first! So are you well prepared to take the responsibility of another human being in your life?

The radical changes in relationships of the 21st century are bringing marriage to the the crossroads of a choice.

Marriage is no longer a sacrifice or risk. It is no longer a traditional custom. It is not some accidental turnover of events. It is not what the TV soaps or movies show us. It is not some lifestyle appealing proposition where young girls are given the spades to dig their ground and build a mutual foundation.  

Looking at some figures of the Indian Singles Market, we have a male and female ratio of 1:10. Yes, that’s shockingly, true.

Where are the men?

Is this a gender imbalance we have been building over years now ? or

Are these missing men still riding on an ironical high mocking at the rise of the true prioritized woman? or

Have the men found their chances in and with other genders too? Because being a male has also not been so easy in the savage patriarchal and blocked up society of ours.   

Well, this surely calls for another story altogether.

Meanwhile, priorities are on a high. Changes are coming at turbo-speed giving way to some evolving societal changes or even a revolution for and through the millennials.

Marriage is indeed a choice today. But, yes more than men, it is the women who are ready to leave their comfort zone and enter into experimentation all for the good of ending our old foul patriarchy.

Home is art with an attitude!

When and why did we start considering something colorful or visually aesthetic as a work of art?  I think “Art is an attitude!”. 

Thanks to my Stay-at-home dad (once he took his VRS at 50) who taught me how to space the clothes while drying them up, why should the clothes be turned inside out for a quick dry, which clothes to dry on the rack and which on the cloth liner, which ones to put in the shade, how to clip them, which ones to be put in the hanger, which fold-alignment does not crumble or crease the clothes, how many folds make for a compact pile up. I found his days very therapeutic at home doing this routine.

There has always been peace in what he has been doing. He has never been forced to do these things. He loves to do it. It just has forever got me to knuckle up in my mind that when did society came to its decision on gender and division of chores.

The root of the problem is that we do not value our own doings, our daily life. Our rating to ourselves is so low on to what is considered everyday routine, household chores or the mundane life. Everything out there seems glittering with questions like what are you doing today which is so different from what other people are up to? And tons of other similar questions. The problem created here is of our own making. We are bullying ourselves into a very conscious being. Treading on what’s expected of you by the traditional society is not something of the past but, also of the modernistic future we live today. Just the criteria has changed.

Is it asking for so much from the genders that exist? Why divide chores or careers? Why divide life? Why not share? Why not experiment?

As the change occurs, I believe that with each ticking second it is scores of stay-at-home moms and some numbers of stay-at-home dads are the ones who are actually working on building blocks or connecting households.

Home is art and we need people who enrich it because art thrives not in measured cubicles but, in a free state of mind and space!

Halloween in Soup

On the warm eve of Jack-O-Lantern………...

The day was just winding up with a dip in the air. The breeze hissing into my ears, the bite of the night giving me jitters. I am just a eight year old with bones and joints growing in an all-compassing direction.

I looked for my jungle green hooded jacket in my wardrobe. I found it on the last row, tucked away in the orderly way mom did at the end of last winter.

I looked out of the window to see Chris and Paul toss the coin to continue their never ending bet stories. Just then I heard the kitchen door creak. Mom, is that you? I pitched it out with a lot of desperation. The voice from the other side was more gruffly. "It's dad. Mom is coming too in a few minutes".  Okay, I mellowed, I am coming down.

Sliding down the staircase, I landed just in time to bang into my dad. Hey Jose, dad squeaked, how have you been all day? Did you go out to play a bit? No dad, I was catching up on my science notes and self-pacing on my basketball skills.

Hmmm, that's good. But, it is a fine day to catch up with the neighbourhood boys. It's been awhile since I saw you interacting with them. Dad, I will meet them tonight anyway for the "Trick or Treat" muster. O yeah! So tell me what costume have you planned for yourself, dad punched? Grandma gave me an old one from the attic. She said it belonged to Uncle John when he was my age. That's sounds pretty set for you. Good luck my boy...

Just then mom barged in with loads of books and two bunches of keys and placed all of it with a clonk on the dining table.

Hello boys, what have you been upto? Dad, gave a warm hug with prolonged kiss on her forehead. Happy Weekend! They both screamed to the top of the ceiling. My lips curved up in empathy. Dad pulled me too, to unite in our traditional family group hug-tug.

It was mom, who first broke away and tossed the question, who is going to the garden to get the Pumpkin on the table? Dad was a bit spaced out suddenly. I am sure he had planned a self-igniting TV evening. This year too?, dad groaned.

Why not snapped mom? Well dad pitched, I thought Jose is over eight now and will find it interesting to hang around for trick or treat rather than carving a Cucurbita pepo (plant name which yields Pumpkin). Mom, was tapping her foot and I had figured out long back that it was a sign for dad to stop and just listen out to a plan mom had already figured out all perfect in her mind.

Dad sat down on the chair, and tapped the table and started musing his calm-change song (I call it that because he usually changes his thoughts after that). lol

Let me make some ham sandwiches and warm coffee, mom trudged. What do you want to sip, Jose?, she asked me. I will have some still lemonade without ice mom.

I did see you are wearing your jacket Jose. Hope you are not catching a sneeze?, mom enquired. No mom, I am okay, I blunted.

The evening snack packed a punch to all of us or was it mom's food? We discussed our day and came up to where we were. Mom, finally laid out the plan ahead for the evening. So boys, I think we are not just going to carve a pumpkin this Halloween, but also Jose is going to start to build on his culinary skills. Mom winked at me and notched up her nose. Dad did look surprised but, he well appreciated the idea.

So it was all set, dad and I will go to the garden to pick up a big great pumpkin. Come back and we three will get going into not just carving a "Jack-O-Lantern" but, also then I will be making an Halloween special "Cream of Pumpkin soup" under the guidance of my parents.

Just as we two were going to step out into the garden, mom called out, "And yes, I forgot to say this, Jose you will have to invite a friend of yours to join us for the soup you will spell up tonight". It pierced my ears and boggled my mind. Who will I invite? My mind was working like a bingo striking any name coming on my path.

Just then I got knocked down by the blessed pumpkin we planned to slay. Where are you lost, Jose boy? dad chuckled. I heard him saying, “Come, let's pull this mean big one out to our table”. We were inside the kitchen in a few minutes, thrusting out all the squash from inside, putting it into the mixer less the seeds which we had planned to dry up for roasting it later for a snack pack.

So, who are we expecting today, Oh, yeah, No. Don't tell us Jose. Let it be your secret and a surprise for us, gleamed mom. Dad, gave me a smile, saying you better go invite now and I will help get the pulp ready in the meantime and mom can get her artistic hands onto carving the pumpkin fellow.

Sure, dad, I said, trolling away to the porch. Once there I sat down again playing the mind bingo game. The boys in the neighbourhood came with their own gangs or groups. And I didn't want to bring friends of friends. Just someone, who we can share a quiet evening with. Just then, I heard the humming of songs from the front row houses. The boys in the neighbourhood called the row houses “Poor Man’s Zone”.  The songs were surely being sung by Mrs. Daniel and her daughter Elizabeth. I had played with Elizabeth last summer when they had just moved into the neighbourhood. My mom unlike the other women in the high node Lincoln Street, had taken me with a welcome basket of goodies to make feel good the Daniels at their new abode. I had not gone again to play with her all this while. But, I liked her for the generous helping of the Carrot Chocolate cake she shared with me and also for being, hmm, who she was! Finally, the winner emerged from my bingo mind. It was Elizabeth!

Three taps at the door, and Mrs. Daniel opened up with her lovely smile. Jose, she shrilled, nice to see you boy, it's been sometime you hopped in. Elizabeth, look who is here she called out. Hello, Mrs. Daniel, Happy Halloween! I am here to invite Elizabeth for dinner with us. I will be making pumpkin soup for the evening with mom and dad helping me. Good gracious, exclaimed Mrs. Daniel. You are such a compassionate boy, just like your mother! Elizabeth, where are you sweetheart? I am coming mom, echoed her voice as she made sounds with her boots coming down the staircase.

Hi Jose ,she brightened up shaking my hand. How have you been all this while? I am good I responded briskly continuing, to ask, so will you like to join me and my family for a Halloween dinner? Her face broke into a comical laugh. I withdrew a bit, thinking maybe she will not be comfortable. "Ofcourse" came the answer. Just that you have never invited me home before. But, their is always a start, she said with a comical face which made me grin.

Mrs. Daniel smiled and said, so that's great kiddos. Good to grow your friendship skills too. Jose, I will drop her in another thirty minutes. Sure, I mumbled and waved my way back.

Back at my home kitchen, I played along with dad cooking some onions in a pan with two spoons of olive oil. We added the pumpkin pulp to it, then dashing it with some grounded peppercorns, clove, cinnamon and salt to taste. The small fresh cream carton from the fridge made its way onto the saucepan too. Mom added her magical sprinkle of parsley to make the soup healthier. The soup was all set to warm up our souls to the spooky night.

Just then the doorbell rang and my parents amused their way to open the door. The next I knew, we were chatting away at the couch about Elizabeth's school, her hobbies and more. My mom dances too, Elizabeth said excitedly. We go to dance classes together after school. That is so cool, said my mom. And I am so glad you were such a sport to make it here with such a last moment invite. We are working parents and it gets difficult to plan ahead because of our erratic schedules. It's okay Mrs. Victor. I do understand what you mean.

So kiddos, my dad got up saying, let's start our dinner. Mrs. Victor, he proclaimed, “may the grilled chicken be blessed”. I don't know about you kids but, I am going to stuff up tonight.

Starting with a tiny prayer, we binged on.

The soup was indeed good or was it the feeling of achievement?

Elizabeth had two helpings of it and it gave me more courage.

Mommies grilled chicken was out of the world as always.

Just as we were winding up, I heard Chris and Paul distinctively.

They were calling out for me.

Time for "Trick or Treat", I said.

Elizabeth didn't reply but, crooned,

“You already gave me a treat

with some tasty meat..

Your soup in a bowl, I emptied it all...

And so it calls for howl!!!” AAwwooooooooo

We all gave a hearty warm laugh together and lit the Jack-O-Lantern before leaving for just tricks.

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Parenting Lessons from the Short Story "Halloween in Soup"

1. Parents show, Kids Learn

Mrs & Mr Victor make a happy & loving family and show that through the tradition of group hug-tug. Love is quite a big aspect which comes in small portions of actions and is understood and multiplied then. Rather than going for a "teach and follow" parenting style it's good to emotionally coach them through "showing and learning". 

2. Responsible Child

Jose is a responsible child. He has completed his homework and did play on his own. 

3. Social Interaction Skills

Mr. Victor does believe being outdoor in company with friends is a crucial aspect of growing up. He does express his wish to Jose. 

4. Self-care through Mindfulness

Jose took care of himself by pulling out his jacket and wearing it. He knew he had to take prevention less he catches a cold. It also shows that he was completely aware of what he felt physically and mentally. That calls for great Mindfulness. Sometimes overlooked kids do become blank when it comes to expression of feelings (physically and mentally). Mrs. Victor did address Jose's decision to wear a jacket and asked if all was ok.

5. Ignite a thought, and the path is created

Parenting is all about mutual learning and not ruling. Authoritarian or Helicopter parenting styles can only lead to low self-esteem and over depended children. We are here to just create a few sparks in the child's path and they will create their world then. Mrs. Victor took the lead here of doing more than what's expected on a Halloween. She knew Jose was low in social interactions and wanted him to think on his own and arrive at a conclusion as to who will he invite for dinner. 

6. Make & keep up your own family traditions

Make more of the festivals around us. In whatever time and in whatever ways that builds the conscious state of your family through good deeds like sharing, caring and more. 

The "Joy of Giving" and "Thanksgiving" can come anytime of the year.

7. Children are noticing

Mr Victor was being appreciative of his wife even if he had other plans. Joes has been noticing all along for a considerable time now how both his parents argue. But, he also knows their alternative adjustments to each other. This is just one scenario. There may be others too. 

8. Stop diving chores as per gender 

Culinary skills belong to all genders. Our boys need to also learn to love the kitchen. Also there may be girls who do not like cooking. It's fair in a world were there are also men who don't like dusting. 

9. Being generous

Mrs Victor and Elizabeth have already shown Joes how to be generous one, by being non-judgmental and pervasive in nature and two, by sharing is caring. 

10. Compassion and Empathy

The most important take away from the story is that "Compassion is a very strong personality trait and is a by-product of empathy which is feeling what other's are feeling. Compassion is the action one takes to complete your feeling of empathy.

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About the Author: Kapithra Kannapiran is an Edupreneur, Creative Educator, Design Thinker and an Emotional Intelligence Coach.  Based in Mumbai, India, she aspires to bring in paradigm shifts in thought-process and teaching & learning experiences among children and grown-ups. Through her work she focuses on aligning innovative practices with the right market & people collaborations. Her future interest lies in carving intricate paths of customized ideologies and enhance reflective educational experiences of children and all inclusive community.

Regret

Can't stand Immaturity!! Growth comes with change and that with time! Which fool said people don't change? If not change, positive or negative in your own perspective you would have remained unborn! Fools, just fools!! Sick jackasses throwing their frustration on others or making deliberate attempts to tarnish image of others! Start of an unknown little feeling which was hidden deep inside REGRET!!!! I suppose at times in life we should behave exactly the opposite of what we ...are... Just like there is a creator, there is a destroyer too and sometimes in-between these two extreme forces comes a damage controller who tries to extinguish the sparks of life and death to bring equilibrium and tranquility. The worst can come when this damage controller is hurt or poked. Because all along Shakti has been looking about... She is the supreme truth.. because purity resides in her... I don't grudge because the universe takes care of what I deserve and what I not!!! [There are so many simple life skills and change management techniques to be learnt from the trinity of Brahma, Shiva & Vishnu under the layered up leadership of Shakti]