Life has given us lots of reasons to smile and cry. And sometimes
along the sidelines of life, we meet people, who we feel privileged
to know. The respect I have for this woman has no bounds. I met
Sujatha almost a decade back at our workplace in Chennai. Loved
her chirpy voice, friendly nature and a beautiful smile which made
its way to most of us to have a great day at work. In a while, I got
married and moved to Mumbai but, we did connect on Facebook
and have been in touch then on.
along the sidelines of life, we meet people, who we feel privileged
to know. The respect I have for this woman has no bounds. I met
Sujatha almost a decade back at our workplace in Chennai. Loved
her chirpy voice, friendly nature and a beautiful smile which made
its way to most of us to have a great day at work. In a while, I got
married and moved to Mumbai but, we did connect on Facebook
and have been in touch then on.
On 1st December, 2016 I read a Facebook post by one of our
colleague and was a bit moved by its content. It spoke of one of
his colleague friend losing her only son on 30th November 2016.
Checking the post the second time, I read someone mention
Sujatha. It did stuck me hard and I contacted this colleague and
indeed it was my friend Sujatha. I couldn't believe it and felt
numb all along the day. I didn't have her mobile number as
mostly we were a chat on Facebook friend. But, also my mind
was going berserk thinking what will I say to her when I chat with
her again. How is she, now at this moment? I couldn't even imagine
or very truly feel the fathom of sadness she must be experiencing.
colleague and was a bit moved by its content. It spoke of one of
his colleague friend losing her only son on 30th November 2016.
Checking the post the second time, I read someone mention
Sujatha. It did stuck me hard and I contacted this colleague and
indeed it was my friend Sujatha. I couldn't believe it and felt
numb all along the day. I didn't have her mobile number as
mostly we were a chat on Facebook friend. But, also my mind
was going berserk thinking what will I say to her when I chat with
her again. How is she, now at this moment? I couldn't even imagine
or very truly feel the fathom of sadness she must be experiencing.
Her first Facebook post came on 4th December, 2016. We all were
just staring blankly at this picture with dense forest with smoke
green trees and no path to be found. Some visuals do make you
go speechless without a blink. I kept staring at it for a long time
and just liked it with no courage to utter any words as comments.
Just 2-3 of her friends commented on it. The post kept coming on
intervals and always were sobbing with words and visuals. I am
sure it took many of us women and then men to find the strength
in our mind to think what to say to her and then write it finally.
Gradually the comment sections in the post were longer and I too
found myself beginning to comment on them.
just staring blankly at this picture with dense forest with smoke
green trees and no path to be found. Some visuals do make you
go speechless without a blink. I kept staring at it for a long time
and just liked it with no courage to utter any words as comments.
Just 2-3 of her friends commented on it. The post kept coming on
intervals and always were sobbing with words and visuals. I am
sure it took many of us women and then men to find the strength
in our mind to think what to say to her and then write it finally.
Gradually the comment sections in the post were longer and I too
found myself beginning to comment on them.
It is a year now and I can say with much deliberation that I do not
hold even a miniscule of "Will Power" and "Grit", Sujatha owns,
showcases and applies to what she has been given in life.
hold even a miniscule of "Will Power" and "Grit", Sujatha owns,
showcases and applies to what she has been given in life.
The past one year, many of us have seen her and tried feeling what
she does not just in vain but, in all practical aspects too. This
November she lost her beloved Mother to terminal stage thyroid
cancer. And I told her that I am not even a pinch to the
understanding she weaves and stand she shows in life.
she does not just in vain but, in all practical aspects too. This
November she lost her beloved Mother to terminal stage thyroid
cancer. And I told her that I am not even a pinch to the
understanding she weaves and stand she shows in life.
I could only write this blog post now, seeing and feeling her wade
through the sea of unending sorrow and coming up to catch her
breath right through blocks of frozen ice.
through the sea of unending sorrow and coming up to catch her
breath right through blocks of frozen ice.
In just a year she lost both her beloved Son and then Mother.
And when all including me, may think that life cannot get more
cruel than this, she finds and gives us hope in that space too.
I have fallen short of words first time in my life.
Sujatha is an Inspiration! And we all around her derive our
strength from her and not the other way around. Sujatha shares
an vibrant universal energy and that vibes us all around her.
And when all including me, may think that life cannot get more
cruel than this, she finds and gives us hope in that space too.
I have fallen short of words first time in my life.
Sujatha is an Inspiration! And we all around her derive our
strength from her and not the other way around. Sujatha shares
an vibrant universal energy and that vibes us all around her.
To spread the love and affection to those in need, as SIRISH, her
son always wanted to, the parents, family and friends have started
a community programme called SOS. Their effort is to the world
that already knew and even didn't know SIRISH to see him as an
ANGEL IN DISGUISE in the way of meaningful life and compassionate
humanity. This is not a fund raising programme but, just a memorial
helping others in need. Here is the Facebook page for this
community which you can like and follow
son always wanted to, the parents, family and friends have started
a community programme called SOS. Their effort is to the world
that already knew and even didn't know SIRISH to see him as an
ANGEL IN DISGUISE in the way of meaningful life and compassionate
humanity. This is not a fund raising programme but, just a memorial
helping others in need. Here is the Facebook page for this
community which you can like and follow
Knowing that this inconsolable loss will have a pit less vacuum in
Sujatha, I still find her so fierce with some very crucial and essential
life skills we need to learn and also teach our children the same
because death is pertinent where life is present.
Sujatha, I still find her so fierce with some very crucial and essential
life skills we need to learn and also teach our children the same
because death is pertinent where life is present.
The need to be 'Emotionally Intelligent' is in high order here.
Followed by the practice of 'Solitude', teaching of ‘Failure’, the
strength of 'Grit & Will Power', 'Mindfulness', 'Empathy’ and
‘Compassion'.
Followed by the practice of 'Solitude', teaching of ‘Failure’, the
strength of 'Grit & Will Power', 'Mindfulness', 'Empathy’ and
‘Compassion'.
Understanding Sujatha a bit more in a year now, it strongly points
that her source of all these core power values is gathered light right
from her growing up years when her parents and community must
have inculcated and built this vessel of esteem asset in her.
that her source of all these core power values is gathered light right
from her growing up years when her parents and community must
have inculcated and built this vessel of esteem asset in her.
Emotional Intelligence is the tussle of bringing yourself to know
who you are and want to be. It is the work of both - your mind &
your heart. The combination of Mind's IQ and Heart's EQ is what
will make the "YOU"!
who you are and want to be. It is the work of both - your mind &
your heart. The combination of Mind's IQ and Heart's EQ is what
will make the "YOU"!
Solitude is cutting yourself from anything tangible and sometimes
even the intangible. It’s like when sometimes you go and clear even
the recycle bin on your laptop. Stop brooding on anything and earn
yourself a generous 10-15 minute of just lazing around time in a day.
even the intangible. It’s like when sometimes you go and clear even
the recycle bin on your laptop. Stop brooding on anything and earn
yourself a generous 10-15 minute of just lazing around time in a day.
Failure is not just about any mean ends but, the process of trying
itself. If you stop trying things, do not change or do not take leaps,
you become immune to risk taking. You stop growing then. You
become dull without ambition and wither away.
itself. If you stop trying things, do not change or do not take leaps,
you become immune to risk taking. You stop growing then. You
become dull without ambition and wither away.
Grit and Will Power comes with great resolves and strength. Keep
looking ahead to achieve goals - old and new. We can also talk
about perseverance here. Keep trying. Keep at it..
looking ahead to achieve goals - old and new. We can also talk
about perseverance here. Keep trying. Keep at it..
Mindfulness is self-study. Bringing our mind to the present second.
Feeling the vibrations of even the breeze flowing through our body
hair. Meditation and Yoga are tools to understand our mindfulness
and tune it to our progress.
Feeling the vibrations of even the breeze flowing through our body
hair. Meditation and Yoga are tools to understand our mindfulness
and tune it to our progress.
Empathy steps in when we pull up our strings of resilience and
retrospection. Both these strings need to be pulled with equal
velocity and we can then place together the feeling of others and
ours to think ahead in systematic or random order.
retrospection. Both these strings need to be pulled with equal
velocity and we can then place together the feeling of others and
ours to think ahead in systematic or random order.
Compassion is the last action in this chain of values. It comes just
after empathy in the form of reuniting ourselves with the universe
and aligning our existence with the work given to us in this life.
after empathy in the form of reuniting ourselves with the universe
and aligning our existence with the work given to us in this life.
Sujatha has been in depression, but, at the same time she finds
the key to open up that vault of depression and let her sorrows
convert into remembrance bit by bit, second per second, it is
happening as we read. And me, you and the universe can just
admire her in light years to come…
the key to open up that vault of depression and let her sorrows
convert into remembrance bit by bit, second per second, it is
happening as we read. And me, you and the universe can just
admire her in light years to come…
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